I caught myself doing it again yesterday. My little inner judge popped up and starting issuing rulings from the bench. "She is such a bitch." "He is so selfish." "What a whiner." And my favorite: "He is so judgemental." Don't you just love the irony?
A few years ago I started doing something that turned my judgements around. Whenever I issue a judgement I tack on the words "just like me." If my inner judge says, "She is such a bitch," I finish the statement with "just like me." The funny thing is, it always rings true. I am capable of all of the behaviors that I judge other people so harshly for. In a sense, I am judging my own behavior that I see reflected back to me in the actions of others.
I am learning to have more empathy for those around me. In the process I am also learning to empathize with myself. My inner judge may eventually have to retire from the bench.
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