Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Day 138

I am leaving with Steven to go to Olympia to visit Evergreen. I am looking forward to the time together. There was definitely a time when I didn't enjoy our time together as much as I would have liked. We were like a lot of parents and adult children; it was difficult for us to really connect.

I think that most children long to connect with their parents; they carry this desire into adulthood. We, as parents, can facilitate this connection if we have both the desire and the tools to manifest that desire. For many years I only had the desire. I never stopped to hear what Steven was really saying, to see who he really was. I didn't know how. I wanted to shape him into a person who would reflect well on me. My ego was the chasm between us.

I am learning to listen and accept; Steven is learning to trust and share. Our time together is becoming more precious because it is filled with moments of authentic connection. He's 26 years old and I am finally learning to be the kind of parent I always wanted to be.

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