Bill and I have been together for about 15 years. I think more than anything we wanted to avoid a static relationship, one where we act in prescribed ways. We were intent on our growth as a couple.
Although we haven't acquired a lot of material possessions or status symbols, I am proud of what we have accomplished together. I saw one of our accomplishments today. We got in an argument. It was nothing like the knock-down, drag-outs we used to have when we were first together.
We have learned to fight more effectively. Bill learned not to yell because that frightened me. I learned not to cry because that made Bill feel helpless. We both learned to ask for what we need and to try to attend to the needs of the other. Sometimes we even manage to turn disagreements into opportunities to connect. In my book that is success.
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