Bill and I celebrated our wedding anniversary last week. I use the word celebrated loosely here. We went to a Mexican restaurant down the street from our house. Later we made ice cream sundaes that we ate while we watched silly sitcoms on television. Some people like champagne and dancing, we like sundaes and sitcoms.
Traditionally, a wedding anniversary is an opportunity for a couple to reaffirm their love for each other and once again proclaim it to the world. Unfortunately it can also become an obligation and an excuse to point blame when expectations are not met. A failed anniversary can come to symbolize everything that is wrong in the marriage.
We work hard to avoid expectations in our marriage. We're not married because I wanted a husband or he wanted a wife. These roles are laden with so many expectations These expectations get in the way of friendship and true intimacy.
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